Unity is a very important theme. It is critical to the resolution of the many problems facing our nation and our world today because without it we will never be able to engage the necessary solutions.

In this election year it’s painfully clear that there are many people with many differences. Many needs. Many perspectives. Many polarities.  Many grievances. Many resentments. Many biases. Many prejudices.  A great deal of intolerance. A great deal of hostility. A great deal of rage and aggression.

We have forgotten who we are. We have forgotten that we originally all came from one Source. We all came from a place of Unity, a place of Universal Acceptance and Love. And then we fell into a dream of separation, a dream of selfish egos competing with each other rather than cooperating, attacking each other rather than living in harmony.

We have lost our way. We have lost our universal identity as a brotherhood of people. So caught up in the distinction of skin color, races and nations, we have lost our true connection with God. And now, amidst all the chaos, the confusion, the rage and the hate, we must find our way Home. We must find a way to re-unite with God and each other before we destroy ourselves. How do we do this?

How do we unify amidst so much divisiveness and venom?

It surely would be a whole lot easier and happen a whole lot faster if we had leaders who made acceptance, forgiveness and love the platform of their party, the priority above all other priorities, the glue holding together their political agenda.

Unfortunately, that’s not what’s happening. When I listen to the various presidential candidates all I hear is what they’re going to do for us. Right now it’s the Republicans, but later it will be the Democrats doing the very same thing, everybody telling us what they’re going to do for us.

No one telling us what WE need to do for us, what you and I, what we the people need to do for ourselves if we want to truly solve our problems. If we want a world where people cooperate and co-exist in harmony, peace and prosperity, we must appreciate that it won’t happen at the level of nations and leaders.

It will happen from the ground up. It will happen first with the choices that WE make, you and I, each and every one of us. The choices we make to be more tolerant, more accepting, more loving, more forgiving, and more generous.

Easier said than done amidst so much anger, grievance, resentment and judgment swirling all around us, so many of us seeing the differences in people rather than the similarities, seeing others as the enemy if they don’t think the same way we do. If they have a different god or a different religion or a different political persuasion, if they’re too far to the left or too far to the right, we don’t just disagree, we demonize them, we label them evil and dangerous, they’re going to destroy America.

All this fear mongering, all this demonizing has got to stop. It solves nothing. It further polarizes people. It makes things worse.

Bottom line: There are too many people with divergent views and needs. For any of us to take extreme intransigent positions and expect the rest of the nation to get on board is unrealistic and counterproductive. We will never have a nation where everyone thinks the same way. We must find common ground amidst the differences. We must find ways to cooperate, compromise and negotiate for the greatest good of all concerned.

How do we do this? One person at a time. One mind at a time. One heart at a time. We do it by example. By role modeling right action. Albert Schweitzer had it right when he said, “Example is leadership.”

Example is leadership.

We cannot rely on our leaders to be the examples of right action. We must be the example. We must be the role models. We must each of us make the personal commitment to discourage the fear-mongering,  the demonizing, the rageful, hate speech about those who don’t share our beliefs.

If we don’t do it, it’s not going to happen. All the divisiveness will defeat us in the long run. Not global warming. Not earthquakes and tsunamis. Not nuclear  weapons. Not terrorists. Our divisiveness will defeat us.

We are the enemy of ourselves when we lack tolerance and compassion, and lash out at those we disagree with. True patriotism means respecting our fellow citizens regardless of their political viewpoints or religious beliefs.

We have been trained to believe in concepts like “every man for himself,” and “kill or be killed” which suggest that we must compete and battle others if we are to succeed and prevail. We have been trained to believe that aggression is necessary in order to survive.

The truth is that we do not need aggression in order to survive. The truth is that we will not prevail, in the long run, as long as we believe we must attack and subjugate others in order to win.

Most people think that “survival of the fittest” means survival of the strongest, the most aggressive, the most violent and predatory. They are wrong. Survival of the fittest in the final analysis will be survival of the spiritually fittest, survival of those who strive to unite rather than divide, survival of those who strive to let go of judgments and prejudices, survival of those who strive to embrace acceptance and tolerance, survival of those who are dedicated to the application of compassion, generosity and forgiveness.

The meek shall inherit the earth.

“The meek shall inherit the earth” doesn’t mean the weak shall inherit the earth. It means those who are humble, accepting and forgiving shall inherit the earth, those who embrace peaceful methods to solve problems, to bridge divergent ideologies, and to find the common ground shall inherit the earth.

We will not survive as a nation, as a people, as a planet unless we recognize that the solution to all of our problems requires a unified approach that embraces trust, compassion and cooperation rather than further entrenchment in the ideology of war and destruction of others as a means to our peace and prosperity.

There is great beauty in the diversity of nature. There is great beauty in the diversity of human beings. But instead of appreciating that diversity and glorifying it, we fear it, we blame it, we scapegoat it, we destroy it… and in the process we destroy ourselves. Sooner or later we destroy ourselves with our fear and our divisiveness. Therefore, it behooves us to find a way to rise above the battlefield, to perceive the world in a different light, so that we can appreciate the foolishness of attacking others.

One way to do this is to consider the analogy of a jigsaw puzzle. Each jigsaw puzzle piece looks different in some way from other pieces, but each piece is inherently the same, in the sense that each piece is an integral part of the puzzle that contributes to the puzzle’s wholeness. Without every single piece, the puzzle is not complete.

It would be irrational and self-destructive for one puzzle piece to hurt or destroy another puzzle piece because the integrity of the whole puzzle, which each piece is ultimately dependent upon, would be damaged in the process.

We are all puzzle pieces. Each of us looks different but we’re all the same. Each of us a piece of the puzzle, a piece of the total picture, a piece of God. When we attack one another, we are being irrational and self-destructive because we are attacking the integrity of the whole organism, we are attacking the Oneness which each of us is a part of.  We are essentially attacking God when we attack any of his children.

And so it behooves us to appreciate the Oneness of Life, that despite differences and diversity, we are all the same, that we were all cut from the same cloth, that we are all part of the whole, that we are all interconnected, that we were all created by God and deserve equally all the blessings of life that God offers, that we need to share our blessings with others, that we need to care about those less fortunate than ourselves, that there is one thing we need to do above all else and that is to treat others as we wish to be treated.

Love ye one another.

This is how we will unify our nation and our world. With love. With acceptance. With tolerance and with forgiveness. This is what we must practice and preach. Love. Acceptance. Tolerance and Forgiveness. This is how we must behave towards each other. This is the behavior we need to role model for our children. Unconditional love, acceptance, tolerance and forgiveness.

We must teach our children well. We must teach our children to recognize their spiritual brothers and sisters in everyone they see, regardless of what they look like, what clothes they are wearing, what country they came from, the color of their skin, the language they speak, or the God they believe in.

We must teach our children and everyone we meet the virtues of generosity, courtesy, consideration, humility and grace.  We must teach our children and everyone we meet to be of service to others, to aid others as best we can, to ask the question, “How can I help you?” rather than “What’s in it for me?”

We must  teach our children and everyone we meet  to find ways to let go of anger and hurt, to see the God in people, the good in people, despite how they’re behaving, to find ways to hate the sin but love the sinner.

We must teach our children and everyone we meet that there is a oneness, there is a wholeness of which we are all a part, that we are all inextricably bound together, that we each have a responsibility to each other, that we ARE our brother’s keeper, that we must exclude no one from our love, that we’re all in this together, that nobody wins if anybody loses.

In this election year and the years to come, try to remember that it is our job not to elect leaders but to BE leaders, to be the role models that our world needs to survive and to thrive. It is our job to find the similarities, the commonalities rather than the differences. It is our job to find ways to unify rather than divide. It is our job to remember that either we all hang together or we will surely hang separately.

Forgive To Win!

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Why sit around waiting for something to happen that you can react to? Why not make something happen and then react to the reactions that your actions generate? As Bob Dylan once wrote, “Why wait any longer for your world to begin? You can have your cake and eat it too.”

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If you build your internal field of integrity, if you get your own house in order, if you release your judgments and unforgiveness, if you focus on gratitude and acceptance, inner peace will come to you, joy will come to you, an ability to live life to the fullest, in the Now will come to you.

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“If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing badly.” ~ Robert MacPhee, author of Manifesting For Non-Gurus. Point being: We’ve all got to start somewhere. The key is to start and not feel shamed by lack of skills such that we discourage, demoralize and defeat ourselves. Stay on the path. Stay on your intention. Learn. Grow. Persevere. Practice. Do it now.

Rome Wasn’t Built In A Day

What we’re attempting to do is the most difficult assignment we have ever given ourselves. It’s by no means a simple process to change deeply-engrained thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It will take time.

It is unrealistic to anticipate the kind of change, growth, success and prosperity we’re talking about here happening overnight. It is wiser to expect gradual improvements in our lives.

Periodically, our ego will shout at us that, “It’s taking too long, it’s not going to work, give it up!” But we don’t listen. We don’t veer from our path. We stay the course. We do the best that we can.

When we find ourselves getting impatient, frustrated and discouraged because results aren’t happening fast enough, we remind ourselves that utilizing a tool which will dramatically transform the lives and realities of ourselves and all those we touch requires time for the synchronization of cooperating people and circumstances.

We remind ourselves of the story about the tortoise and the hare: that slow and steady progress wins the race.
More than anything else, we remind ourselves that the patience required of us in the daily application of the Forgiveness Diet is patience that will pay off, compared to all of our time, money and efforts in the past which have not.

Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

In addition to acknowledging the importance of patience, we must also acknowledge that there will be good days and bad days, and that we shouldn’t allow the bad days to set us back or derail us either.

Good days and bad days are part of the normal progression of change and growth. Two steps forward, one step back. That’s how it works. No point in getting frustrated by it or giving it more power than it deserves.

When we have our bad days, when we find ourselves slipping back into our old habits and counterproductive behavior patterns, we don’t beat ourselves up with guilt, shame, and self-condemnation.

We just get back to applying and practicing the Forgiveness Diet, one day at a time, one moment at a time, one choice at a time. We don’t dwell on how long it took us to get going again. We don’t deride and degrade ourselves for getting derailed in the first place. We just get back to the program.

We just get back to rigorously practicing the Forgiveness Diet on a daily basis, knowing that it is the surest way to forgive ourselves, end our self-sabotage, and harness the inherent power within us, in order to self-actualize the fullness of our potential.

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Today’s mentoring tip is related to the fact that I did not provide a mentoring tip yesterday, and therefore did not fulfill my promise to provide a daily mentoring tip for 90 days. I have my reasons for why it did not happen, why I was more preoccupied and focused on other things, but they are all excuses that do not hold up. I could have spent a minute writing something, anything, I didn’t. I dropped the ball.

Today’s mentoring tip is that all of us periodically drop the ball and don’t follow through, and fall off the bicycle. And the point is we need to acknowledge it and own it, not make excuses unless there is truly a legitimate one that made it truly physically impossible for the commitment to be kept. And then we need to not beat ourselves up with guilt, shame and self-loathing for falling off the path. We remind ourselves that this path is about progress not perfection. We do the best we can.

When we fall off the bicycle we don’t beat ourselves up, we simply get back on the bicycle and start pedaling again. we look at what made us fall off the bicycle, what made us lose our balance, so we can learn from the experience and hopefully not repeat the undesirable behavior. and then we pat ourselves on the back for being back on the bicycle and we go forth with joy, inner peace and renewed faith and confidence in ourselves and our program.

– The following is an excerpt from my best-selling book, Forgive To Win!, relevant to the above discussion:

Rome Wasn’t Built In A Day

What we’re attempting to do is the most difficult assignment we have ever given ourselves. It’s by no means a simple process to change deeply-engrained thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It will take time.

It is unrealistic to anticipate the kind of change, growth, success and prosperity we’re talking about here happening overnight. It is wiser to expect gradual improvements in our lives.

Periodically, our ego will shout at us that, “It’s taking too long, it’s not going to work, give it up!” But we don’t listen. We don’t veer from our path. We stay the course. We do the best that we can.

When we find ourselves getting impatient, frustrated and discouraged because results aren’t happening fast enough, we remind ourselves that utilizing a tool which will dramatically transform the lives and realities of ourselves and all those we touch requires time for the synchronization of cooperating people and circumstances.

We remind ourselves of the story about the tortoise and the hare: that slow and steady progress wins the race.

More than anything else, we remind ourselves that the patience required of us in the daily application of the Forgiveness Diet is patience that will pay off, compared to all of our time, money and efforts in the past which have not.

Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

In addition to acknowledging the importance of patience, we must also acknowledge that there will be good days and bad days, and that we shouldn’t allow the bad days to set us back or derail us either.

Good days and bad days are part of the normal progression of change and growth. Two steps forward, one step back. That’s how it works. No point in getting frustrated by it or giving it more power than it deserves.

When we have our bad days, when we find ourselves slipping back into our old habits and counterproductive behavior patterns, we don’t beat ourselves up with guilt, shame, and self-condemnation.

We just get back to applying and practicing the Forgiveness Diet, one day at a time, one moment at a time, one choice at a time. We don’t dwell on how long it took us to get going again. We don’t deride and degrade ourselves for getting derailed in the first place. We just get back to the program.

We just get back to rigorously practicing the Forgiveness Diet on a daily basis, knowing that it is the surest way to forgive ourselves, end our self-sabotage, and harness the inherent power within us, in order to self-actualize the fullness of our potential.

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Why I Wrote Forgive To Win!

I wrote Forgive To Win! because during my many years helping people as a board-certified psychiatrist, I realized that the cause of most people’s unhappiness, depression, anxiety, anger, and frustration with their health, their relationships, their career and their finances is self-sabotage.

Most people get in their own way. They don’t do things they know they need to do and when they do take action they make poor choices that impact negatively on their lives and keep them from attracting and manifesting all that they desire and aspire to accomplish.

When I started teaching my patients the secret to ending their self-sabotaging behaviors (spiritual techniques and cognitive tools designed to increase self-esteem and eliminate guilt, shame and self-loathing deeply embedded in the unconscious mind), their emotional turmoil subsided and their lives got better!

I realized that the Forgiveness Diet, my structured 90-day program for ending self-sabotage, was something that could benefit a great many people, particularly those who repeatedly buy self-help books but don’t get the results that they desire.

My Forgiveness Diet is not complicated. And it works! With diligent practice and persistence, you can:

Be successful in your career.

Generate wealth & prosperity.

Be successful in your relationships.

Generate love and harmony.

Increase self-confidence.

Eliminate fear and worry.

Be happy and healthy.

Lose weight. Keep weight off.

Get in shape.

Live long and live well.

When you re-program your mind to neutralize your negative, harsh Inner Critic, that voice inside yourself that subconsciously causes you to sabotage your opportunities and best efforts, EVERYTHING CHANGES!

Opportunities miraculously appear. Positive people are attracted to you who cooperate with you, share their blessings, and help you to succeed and prosper! There are NO LIMITS to what you can accomplish with Forgive To Win!”

As you engage in the Forgiveness Diet to eliminate your self-sabotaging behaviors and manifest the life you desire and deserve, you role model right-minded actions for others, you transform others, and you help to move the whole of humanity towards universal peace and prosperity. That’s serious icing on the cake, my friends.

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Forgiveness is not something that you should put off for a rainy day. Forgiveness is not something you should try after you’ve tried everything else. Forgiveness should be at the top of your priority list of things to do each and every day, as best you can, unconditionally and without exceptions. Go forth and forgive! And then watch your world get better!

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I often hear people complain that the law of attraction doesn’t work. It’s not true. Just because you consciously want a specific outcome and you don’t get it doesn’t mean that the law of attraction has failed you. If, at an unconscious level, you believe you are unworthy and deserving of punishment, not reward, the law of attraction will attract scarcity, lack, failure and disappoint, which is why it is critical to eliminate guilt, shame and self-loathing deeply embedded in the unconscious which causes self-sabotaging behaviors and unfulfillment. My book, “Forgive To Win!: End Self-Sabotage, Get Everything You Want” offers the Forgiveness Diet — a way to make the Law Of Attraction work for you rather than against you.

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Oftentimes when we want a task to be perfect, we review all the details meticulously, we want to put our best foot forward and so we analyze the presentation over and over again with a fine tooth comb…. however, there comes a time when we’ve got to appreciate the law of diminishing returns… that the effort we’re putting in isn’t giving us a significant result anymore. At some point we have to say it’s good enough, time to put it out there into the universe, time to work on something else. If we don’t do this, we’re sabotaging ourselves and allowing fear to override our common sense.

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You MUST watch this video. This is a TRUE STORY. This happened to me! It’s a perfect example of how the mind affects the body, how the mind creates physical reality, how the subconscious mind can subvert our efforts and how, by understanding that, we can reverse subconscious mind-body damage, heal ourselves, empower ourselves, and manifest a life free of fear and self-sabotage. PLEASE SHARE THIS VIDEO NOW WITH YOUR FRIENDS & LOVED ONES! IT CAN CHANGE THEIR LIVES FOREVER!

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